I can hardly believe it...today Ross and I celebrate two years as husband and wife! This journey has been a learning experience for both of us. From our first date back in August of 2009 to today I would like to think we have grown both as individuals and as a couple. Through the adventures of dating, moving in together, the loss of a job, major health concerns, life of a travelling contractor, engagement, wedding planning and constantly figuring out what our roles were in each others lives and how Ross fit into the life I already had with my daughter Alyssa - it's been an adventure.
Last night we took sometime to celebrate together. Now, I never complain about a chance to get done up and eat great food but, this was so much more. In the craziness of life, our family schedule and his work schedule our time together is precious. Even more so time alone together, sharing something we both love (good food) and having a chance to really reconnect without dishes we should be doing or the TV on in the background. Beyond just being mushy, which of course this post is a little, I wanted to share a few things I have learned about being a partner and a wife.
- There will always be differences - they don't really matter that much. What matters is how you handle them.
- Feel like you aren't connecting? There could be a lot of reasons for this - maybe schedules have been busy or one of you has been under more stress than usual? Schedule a date, sit down and interview each other, or take five minutes to sit down and take the 5 Love Languages quiz to see if you are on the same page with how you express and recieve affection. (This can be hugely eye opening and I will be sharing my own experience with this soon)
- Take yourself on a date. Yep, thats right, I am telling you to ditch your man and go out on a date with yourself. Plan time to go out and do something that you truly enjoy and show yourself a little love. You will come back to your man a better version of yourself.