Join me in meeting Brow & Lash Guru (an gorgeous business babe) Kimberly Buckley. Kimberly is the owner of the London West location of Waxon Bar and a woman I admire. I recently had a chance to hear her speak at the Blushing Babes Society’s Blushing Babes Brunch.Read More
Balance doesn't mean giving equal amounts of time and energy to everything, it's about giving the right amount of time and energy to the right things and it's different for everyone.
So let me be totally honest here. For a long time, I truly believed that work life balance meant giving the same amount of time and energy to both your personal life and your work life. I struggled to get enough time and energy available for my family while still trying to work full time, build a business, do the cooking and cleaning.
Want to know what the result was? Work colleagues worried about the pace I was working at, the business never seemed to get any traction, and my family seemed to be on edge around me. I mean my daughter stopped asking me to play with her because she was worried she wasbothering me or stressing me out. How sad is that?
At the end of the day I had to figure out what does everyone need from me?
My day job - they need me to be present and engaged for my 35 hours a week and the occasionaly staff meeting or after hours event.
My business - it needs me to be consitent in answering emails and engaging online. It needs me to get out a few times a month to network with awesome people. And weeks when I have bookings it needs me for consults, shoots, editting, and sales sessions. When I don't have sessions - I can work ahead on new ideas and learning new things...or I can spend more time with my family.
My Family - Turns out my husband and daughter (12 yrs old) are pretty independent. They need me fully present and engaged at least one full week night and one weekend day each week. Other than that, they are happy to spend time with me when it works with everything else.
Myself - well, I need to actually appear somewhere in my schedule so here's what I decided. I need 30mins every morning to plan my day, embrace some gratitude, and start the day right. I need 30mins of reading some kind of fiction before bed each night. and I need an hour or two on the weekend to paint, give myself a facial, or curl up with a book and just chill out.
Some days the business is super busy and it needs all my time and attention.
Sometimes my daughter is having a rough week with preteen drama at school and she needs me.
With the outline above - I have the flexibility to put my extra time and energy wherever it will serve us best and know that all the things that need to happen still happen.
What does balance look like for you?
This year I am working to take better care of myself. I am working with a personal trainer on my fitness and nutrition to be healthier. I am taking time every weekend to do what I need to do to replenish myself. It looks a little different each week. One week it might be reading a book. Another week might be a long walk. It might be a movie marathon and face mask. It might be meditation and a long bath. No matter what though, it's about taking to do something that is just for me.
So last weekend, as part of my weekly self-care time, I decided it was time to try out a new style beyond my go-to's of buns, ponytails and braids. I have been getting so much inspiration from the amazing women around me and the women who step in front of my camera. (I'm also one of those women who feels the most beautiful and fiercest right after getting my hair done.)
A bit before this, my friend and mentor Jennifer Rozenbaum did a video on how she does her hair everyday (I love her long loose curls/waves) so I decided to try it out. I even took some photos.
I used this curling wand (because it was what I already had). You can get it on amazon it's the InfinitiPro by Conair CD117 YOU Curl Conical Curling Wand(*Affiliate Link*). It was easy to work with (and came with a protective glove for people like me that always end up burning themselves). I was good to go while working on the left hand side of my head but it got tricky on the right when I needed to work essentially backwards. I was pretty happy with the result though in the future I would like to use a bigger barrel for a bigger looser curl.
What does your hair routine look like? What style makes you feel the most fabulous?
Ever wonder why some people see beauty everywhere while others never seem to see it?
If we cannot find beauty within ourselves, how can we recognize and appreciate the beauty around us. There is beauty in your kindness. Their is beauty in your love. There is beauty in your movement. There is beauty in your strength. There is beauty in your vulnerability. There is beauty in the simple rhythm of breaths in and out. There is so much beauty inside each and every one of us, if we only stop for a moment to see it.
As I dive deep into the Beauty Is project, I see more and more that our ability to see beauty in others and in the world around us is so closely tied to our ability to recognize the beauty in ourselves and love ourselves for it. As women step in front of my camera for a portrait, they are vulnerable in that moment and trusting that I can see and capture that inner beauty.
What is one thing you think if beautiful about yourself? (hint - you don't need to look in the mirror for this one)
It's been a few months since we moved out of the Photographer's Studio and things have been a bit quiet around here. First it was back to school, and now it's been all about getting in and getting the new space ready.
We've spent the last few weeks patching, prepping and painting the walls, replacing trim, picking out furniture, moving in and more but it's almost done!
Today I'm thrilled to invite each and every one of you to join us in studio on Saturday November 25th from 4:00pm - 9:00pm to check out the new space, catch up on what's new, and celebrate the start of a new chapter in our journey.
I can't wait to see you there!
Hop over to the facebook event to RSVP or email me at email@example.com
Can't make it? Make sure you check out the Event Page too, I'll be sharing photos and live videos from the event.
Psychologists agree, change is scary. Our bodies and minds react to change in order to keep us safe. To make us think about what we are doing, but, sometimes that reaction can hold you back too.
Sometimes we need to step out of our comfort zone to make things happen. To chase our dreams.
So want scares you? What do you hold back from doing?
For me there is a list of things...
- Blogging More Often
- Talking about my Business in everyday conversations
- Getting on Video
- Asking for the booking
- Standing on Stage sharing my knowledge and experience
- Sharing my struggles
- Sharing my success
...and so much more.
Someone once said (there's much debate on who originally said it) "Do Something Everyday That Scares You" and it's something I want to start doing a whole lot more of.
Are you with me? What are you going to do today?
In Our home, today is a special day. Today is a celebration. There won't be a big party, fancy decorations, or a big cake.
There will be love, memories, and time spent together.
Today we are celebrating 3 years since we said I do. It's our wedding anniversary.
And some point today, I will pull out my wedding album and look through it with my husband and daughter (she was my maid of honour and in some ways, it was her wedding too).
We will remember the fun moments of that day, but more importantly, we will remember the adventures we've had together.
This past week has been a week focused on creating content for upcoming in person events and videos too. I have been giving a great deal of thought to the topics I want to discus and the length of the talks too. How many topics should I fit in? How long should each be? If I am given a 90 minute time slot, how much should I cover and when is it too much? I came across this quote in my researching this week from Winston Churchill about giving speeches.
At first I just had to laugh, I never would have thought about it quite like that but then again he has a point right?
To me, there is so much more this could be applied to. Speeches, videos, blog posts, sales pages, emails meetings and even conversations. You always want to appropriately cover your topic and the info that needs to be shared while still keeping it interesting and leaving room for questions - how else will you engage and know what your intended audience needs?
I'm going to get a little personal in today's post. I've been a little MIA lately, and I don't love that.
After a summer of travel, family, and photography August kinda hit me hard. In the last month there has been a lot of change in my life and I needed to step back a little. Starting the last week of August we have been...
- Moving out the Photographer's Studio
- Packing up more than half our stuff at home to put in storage (we have a friend moving in)
- Getting ready for back to school for the kiddo, and prepping my classroom too
Now don't get me wrong, I know change is one of the only constants in our lives and I try to embrace it as much as possible. These changes though, they came up quick and shook up all areas of my personal and professional life all at once.
I am excited for the new opportunities for my business in a new space (more on that soon)
I am thrilled to be able to help someone out by giving them a home, and to have one of my closest friends living just downstairs
Going back to school was something Alyssa was looking forward to and I missed my students and families
Change, even change for the better, is often uncomfortable or even painful.
Now, it's time to come back out the other side. The studio is moved. Our stuff is packed and into storage. School is settling into routine.
Thanks for being patient. I look forward to meeting up with you here again very soon!