Balance - it isn't always what you think

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Balance doesn't mean giving equal amounts of time and energy to everything, it's about giving the right amount of time and energy to the right things and it's different for everyone.

So let me be totally honest here. For a long time, I truly believed that work life balance meant giving the same amount of time and energy to both your personal life and your work life. I struggled to get enough time and energy available for my family while still trying to work full time, build a business, do the cooking and cleaning.

Want to know what the result was? Work colleagues worried about the pace I was working at, the business never seemed to get any traction, and my family seemed to be on edge around me. I mean my daughter stopped asking me to play with her because she was worried she wasbothering me or stressing me out. How sad is that?

At the end of the day I had to figure out what does everyone need from me?

  • My day job - they need me to be present and engaged for my 35 hours a week and the occasionaly staff meeting or after hours event.

  • My business - it needs me to be consitent in answering emails and engaging online. It needs me to get out a few times a month to network with awesome people. And weeks when I have bookings it needs me for consults, shoots, editting, and sales sessions. When I don't have sessions - I can work ahead on new ideas and learning new things...or I can spend more time with my family.

  • My Family - Turns out my husband and daughter (12 yrs old) are pretty independent. They need me fully present and engaged at least one full week night and one weekend day each week. Other than that, they are happy to spend time with me when it works with everything else.

  • Myself - well, I need to actually appear somewhere in my schedule so here's what I decided. I need 30mins every morning to plan my day, embrace some gratitude, and start the day right. I need 30mins of reading some kind of fiction before bed each night. and I need an hour or two on the weekend to paint, give myself a facial, or curl up with a book and just chill out.

Some days the business is super busy and it needs all my time and attention.

Sometimes my daughter is having a rough week with preteen drama at school and she needs me.

With the outline above - I have the flexibility to put my extra time and energy wherever it will serve us best and know that all the things that need to happen still happen.

What does balance look like for you?

Renovation & Renewal: Month One - Relationships

I can't tell you how excited I am to share this week's post with you.  

One of the areas of my life that I value above all others is my relationships. Two in particular mean the world to me. My relationship with my daughter Alyssa. And my relationship with my wonderful spouse Ross.

London, Ontario Photographer Rebecca Nash and Family

 

These two people form the foundation to my entire life and without their love and support I would cease to be the person I am.

 

The problem is...I've been so busy and stressed that I've taken them for granted. I've failed to nurture these relationships the way I know I should. I am not proud of this fact. While I've lost balance in many areas of my life, this is the area where it pains me most to admit my own failures, but, until I admit those failures I cannot move forward.

 

Starting this month, I'm taking action to make sure these most prized people in my life feel my love and support at all times. This means committing to three major things.

 

1) A monthly date night where Ross and I can get away from the phones, the computers and the distractions of our daily lives to connect, enjoy each others company, and create happy memories that help us through the tough times.

 

2) A nightly reading time and monthly date night (or day) with my daughter Alyssa. A time everyday where she has my undivided attention as we snuggle up close and share an adventure with the characters in our books. Plus a day when we create the itinerary for the two of us to spend dedicated time together doing the things we love.

 

3) At least one family day per month when the three of us share a day of fun and family time. It can be playing board games on the living room floor, chasing butterflies through the butterfly conservatory, playing in the park, or going on a new adventure. As long as we share the experience together!

 

What commitments have you made to value your relationships with those your treasure most?Yours Enthusiastically Rebecca - Rebecca Nash Photography

 

 

 

 

 

                                                                                                                                                                               

London, Ontario photographer Rebecca Nash is your London wedding, portrait, and fine art Photographer serving London, Ontario and surrounding area through Rebecca Nash Photography. Rebecca Nash prides herself on being one of London's up and coming photography professionals gaining a following in London, Ontario and surrounding area. Rebecca has established herself as an artist through London area and Ontario Juried Art Shows, and her current "Windows on the War of 1812" two person gallery exhibition.