Time to Kick Some...

 

In our busy lives we are always looking to hustle harder and do more. Often we just don't know where to start.

This is where I have found myself lately - so much I want to do. 

In my journey to do more, accomplish more, and make things happen I got a little overwhelmed. And when I get overwhelmed, sometimes I just shut down. 

Then someone shared this quote with me. I may not know every step I am going to take but it's time to lift up my foot.

Do Something Everyday that Scares You

 

Psychologists agree, change is scary. Our bodies and minds react to change in order to keep us safe. To make us think about what we are doing, but, sometimes that reaction can hold you back too.

Sometimes we need to step out of our comfort zone to make things happen. To chase our dreams.

So want scares you? What do you hold back from doing?

For me there is a list of things...

  • Blogging More Often
  • Talking about my Business in everyday conversations
  • Getting on Video
  • Asking for the booking
  • Standing on Stage sharing my knowledge and experience
  • Sharing my struggles
  • Sharing my success

...and so much more.

 

 

Someone once said (there's much debate on who originally said it) "Do Something Everyday That Scares You" and it's something I want to start doing a whole lot more of.

 

Are you with me? What are you going to do today?

Opps I did it Again - The 2018 Ride to Conquer Cancer

Hi guys,  

So I did something, something a lot of people thought was crazy to do once but then I went and did it again. I signed up for the Ride to Conquer Cancer.

 

Last time I did this, in 2014, I signed up for a family member and a student fighting cancer and all those we have lost before. I started fundraising and training for this 200+ KM bike right from Toronto to Niagara Falls. I was excited and nervous (and insanely grateful for all the love, encouragement, and donations in support of my ride).

Sadly Auntie never saw me ride past the end of her driveway when she lost her battle just 2 weeks before the ride (but my husband and parents were there cheering us on). My student however, is a success story. After 3 years he's out of the hospital, done his treatments and doing really really well.

 

This year I am riding in memory of my Aunt, in celebration of my students success, and I also want to ride in support a friend and photography mentor, Jennifer Rozenbaum, in her fight against Breast Cancer. Jen recently underwent a bi-lateral mastectomy but has been incredible open in sharing her entire journey in the hopes of raising awareness and helping others. She's an inspiration!

 

I want to be a part of making more stories like my students come true through the research, treatment, and care that the Ride to Conquer Cancer funds.

 

I have set my goals for training and fundraising. Every day I'll be getting closer to reaching my fundraising goal of $2500 and my personal goal of finishing strong (without developing pneumonia this time hopefully). You can help me reach that goal by making a donation on my behalf today. It only takes a second and your gift has the power to change lives for the better.

 

Click the link to find out more and donate now - Rebecca's Ride to Conquer Cancer Page

 

Thanks for reading, and for your ongoing support. You guys are amazing!

 

Sincerely, Rebecca Nash-Emerson

 

P.s. know someone who might be interested in donating? Please share the details!

This morning, some wise words from Rumi

 

 

We are going to take it down a notch and get serious today.

 

Yesterday I stepped out of my comfort zone and on to the stage at the Mothers Advocating Mental Health (MAMA) Project Conference. I shared the struggles I have faced, and for the first time publicly shared and named the struggles my daughter has faced this last year. Anxiety. Depression. Eating Disorders. Suicidal thoughts.

I was there to talk about art as a form of expression and coping, and I did, but I was also there to reach out and let others know they are not alone.

 

As I finished up my talk, I shared this poem from Rumi that I was first introduced to by my mentor Sue Bryce.

 

This poem hit me right from the start. My initial reaction was something like "What? You want me to invite all those crappy feelings in? Are you nuts?!?!?" but as I walked away from the video it was shared in, I began to remember others things I have been taught that gave me the same gut reaction but have changed the way I think. I gave the poem another chance.

 

In life, we are going to be confronted with good times and bad. Emotions we enjoy, and emotions we don't. We have an instinct to run away from or avoid those things we don't enjoy. To do everything we can to avoid pain, sorrow, sadness.

 

We need to recognize that the good comes with the bad. That we can look at those moments and say 'oh, I know you, come on in' instead of fighting it (which just causes us more stress, pain, and anxiety). Every emotion is a house guest, they will not stay forever. Appreciate them while they are there - they are teaching you something, and wish them a fond farewell when they leave, knowing they will return.

Purple Hair, Don't Care - the lessons I learned with purple hair

In October of 2016 I decided to make a radical change. I went from something close to my natural hair colour to...purple hair. And when I say purple, I mean purple!

I have done a number of different hair colours throughout my life ranging from a light blonde to an almost black with a whole lot of blondes, browns and reds in between. I enjoy changing it up from time to time. But this, this crazy bright purple. It was different.

 

I had been thinking about purple for more than two years (ever since I first saw Jewels Grey on Creative Live and then met her at Shutterfest - that woman is seriously awesome) but just never had the courage to commit to it 100% and follow through. What if it didn't look good? What if clients didn't trust me anymore? What if people looked at me differently?

 

So what finally pushed me to get it done? I was going in to get my hair done for my wedding anniversary (at my husbands suggestion and offer to pay for it too - talk about bonus points) so I asked him what he thought I should do - blonde, red or purple. He (being the honest and blunt man he is) turned around and said 'well, we both know you're too chicken to do the purple so whichever one of the other two you like'.

 

In that moment my brain only registered one thing...

 

Challenge Accepted!

 

You are probably thinking - whats the big deal? So you changed your hair colour. Here's the big deal, for the first 31 years of my life one of my most used skills in my day to day life is to blend into the background and be invisible whenever I can. Don't get me wrong, I have stepped on stage in front of 500 photographers including some of my mentors and spoken, I have performed in plays and concerts, and on a wedding day just try to get me to stop directing the family members during portraits BUT outside of those times when I choose to step forward to be seen, I enjoy blending into the background.

 

Now, as I stepped into my day job, my business and my community I definately stood out. For more than 6 months, I never stepped into a room and blended in. People stopped me on the street. People did a double talk as I walked by. Whether I wanted them to or not, people noticed me everywhere I went.

 

It was an eye opening experience and I learned a lot of lessons along the way.

Tune in to Part Two to find out what they were.

Climb that Mountain...#motivationmonday

I will start off by saying one thing - this is not the post I had planned for today. Not at all but, yesterday something happened and a friend (looking at you Allyn) shared this thought with me and I knew it was what I needed to share with you today.  

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Whether you are a bride planning your wedding day, a newlywed couple working to build your marriage and life together, or a photographer and/or business owner building a business...at some point a mountain(or even a whole mountain range) will show up in your path unexpectedly.

 

When that happens, you have choices. You can...

1) You can stand at the bottom of the mountain and cry about it being there 2) You can crawl up the mountain moaning about it all the way (it's so unfair!) 3) You can conquer that mountain - moving it out of your path, on your own or with help, and try to be grateful for the experience and the lessons you can learn from it. Becoming stronger because of it.

 

To be honest, I have done all of these. I would love to say always jump right to number 3 on the list but it's not that easy. Some days all you can do is sit and stare at the mountain and cry. It's ok! It's okay to not be okay sometimes. Other days you know you need to move forward but it's just so dang hard! But sometimes, you can pick yourself up, call on a friend and battle up and over that mountain or just shoving it out of your way. You may still stumble along the way, but you can do it! Sometimes you have to work through all of these on one mountain - and that's totally ok!

 

Just know that you can do it - there is no mountain you can't conquer and just by doing it - you show others it can be done.

It's time to be brave... #motivationmonday

Quote - the braves may not live forever (Rebecca Nash Photography)  

Good #motivationmonday to you!

 

A couple weeks back I recieved an email from Shaun Novak at HitTheGem.com ask me to be the #GemOfTheWeek for the Gem Nation. (If you don't know about Hit The Gem you should go learn more about Allyn Lewis and her Gem Nation at www.hitthegem.com right now. It has been soo amazing to hear another business owner speaking up about mental health)

 

As much as I was honoured by this, being the Gem of the Week also meant sharing some of my own personal and business struggles both past and current.  Anyone who knows me well knows, I love to help other people whenever I possibly can (and even sometimes when I should be saying no) because that's who I am and that's why my business was created. (Don't get me wrong, I love the art of photography but I really started my business to be able to meet and support people and an important time in their lives so they can create those happy memories and the foundation of a strong marriage)

One thing I'm not good at, admitting my weaknesses, sharing my struggles, or asking for help. Ever. In any area of my life. It's not that I think I am above it, or want to have a superwoman appearence. or anything like that. I mean heck, not only do I downplay my struggles...I also downplay my successes. Why? I don't want to inconvenience or worry other people when I am struggling. I don't want to make someone feel bad when I have success either because what if they are struggling? I just wanted everyone to be happy and successful.

I have to say, as much as it has been scary to share all this and more with the Gem Nation community, it's been an eye opening experience too. It's felt so good in my heart to be able to say...I'm scared but I'm going to do this anyways and then to see the response of others saying 'I know exactly how you feel', 'how can I help', or 'I thought I was the only one'.

 

I look forward to opening the doors and sharing more of exactly who I am, what I have been through, and what I believe in with you too. It's going to be baby steps at first - I think that's best for all of us. I don't want to overwhelm you but I really do want to let you in because at the end of the day, maybe you're like me and just need to know you're not the only one who faces these struggles. I want this amazing online community to know me, Rebecca, not just my photography.

Motivation Monday

Happy Monday Morning!It's a new week and I am excited to get it started. This morning I am feeling both full of excitement and nerves as I get ready to reveal my new hairdo to the world beyond my immediate family. I can't wait to see the reaction of my friends, students and co-workers. What inspired such a change?

 

I have set goals for myself and have been working hard on my health goals while starting planning for my year in business too.

As part of my goals, I want to start sharing more of what I have learned in photography and business with other small business owners, wedding industry professionals and photographers in the hopes that it will inspire others and help them achieve their goals. To do this though I have to take one GIANT step out of my comfort zone as I step out of the shadows and into public speaking (one of my greatest fears). I decidee that it is time to stop fitting in, blending in, and trying to be a part of the background. It's time to step up and be who I am out loud and on purpose.

 

So...I took a chance and got a new hair do. Not a major cut, instead a colour....purple (well more of a lavender or lilac colour really). Are you like me? Do you always aim to fit in by the way you act or dress? Maybe by the choices you are making for your wedding day (following trends even if they aren't you or doing something because its what your friends and/or family members all did)? Then let me share some wise words from an author I love.

 

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Whatever your day may hold - be who you are and stand out!

 

Friday Favourites

Hey hey! I'm so glad you came to join me for the first ever Friday Favourites post here on Rebecca Nash Photography.

 

This week I'm excited to share a few favourites that I came across this week or that really hit me this week as something you might love too.

 

Blacksburg Belle

Okay, I'm just putting this out there. I read a LOT of blogs and email newsletters each week but there is just something about April and her blog Blacksburg Belle that I just adore.

 

I love the style and colours, her totally down to earth voice, and that she showcases not only her knowledge (if you are in a creative business, there is so much you can learn from here) but also her style and quirky sensibilities.

 

It didn't take long for me to feel like April was someone amazing to learn from but also to feel like she was a friend. I mean, we have so much in common (like the fact that we both love Gilmore Girls and I just can't wait for the new mini series on Netflix - ekk!)

 

Check out Blacksburg Belle!

 

West Elm

So clearly I am super late to the game here.

 

No I didn't just learn about West Elm, I've heard about it so many times but it wasn't until I completely fell in love with a table from them that Jillian Harris used in a recent episode of Love it or List It Vancover that I finally hoped over to their site and fell in love with a whole lot of stuff.

 

I wanted to go through and redecorate so much of our home (and finish finding the perfect pieces for the office too) already but between Bouclair's new Atelier line, West Elm, Pottery Barn, Anthropologie, and Ikea I'm just itching to redo everything!

 

This Terrance Console Table is one of my favourite pieces right now (and the one I fell in love with on Love It or List It Vancover)

 

Renovation & Decor Shows

Who else is addicted?

 

I feel like it's a right of passage to a certain degree. I remember watching my mom watch these kinds of shows on HGTV even just a few years back and not really given them a second chance. Now a few years and milestones later (like turning 30, getting married and living in a home we own for more than 5 yrs) I'm a addicted to some of these shows and the contractors and stylists behind them. This is a good thing, and a bad.

 

On the positive side - I have new inspiration and ideas. I have a better sense of both the costs of certain types of renos that I have dreamed of doing as well as what actually adds value.

On the negatives - I totally want to redo the majority of our home and have all these crazy big (and unrealistic for us right now) ideas on how to make our home work better. There has been a whole lot of eye rolling from my husband for sure.

 

My current favourite shows include...

Love It or List It Vancouver

Property Brothers (and of their shows)

Master of Flip

What are your Friday Favourites? What have you been crushing on this week?

Hop down to the comments below and share your favourites too. Can't wait to see what you are loving this week!

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Introducing Friday Favourites...

Time for a new weekly feature and fun post. (Don't worry, I know it's not Friday but I totally wanted to start this feature this week so I'm introducing it today and the first installment of Friday Favourite will go live tomorrow)

 

Each Friday I'm excited to start bringing you my Friday Favourites. A collection of 5 (or more) of my favourite things from the week. It could be blogs I've read, photos I've taken, books I read or more! But this isn't all about me. I want you to join in too...hope into the comments each Friday and share with me your thoughts on my picks as well as your Friday favourites. I love learning about what kind of things you are loving right now!

 

Make sure to connect with me on social media so we can keep in touch - I can't wait to chat with you more!

 

Find me on my favourite social media platforms at...

Rebecca Nash Photography on Facebook Rebecca Nash Photography on Twitter Rebecca Nash Photography on Instagram Rebecca Nash Photography on Periscope Rebecca Nash Photography on Pinterest

...and stay tuned for the first dose of Friday Favourites coming to you tomorrow!

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I'm taking part in a Getting-to-Know-You game of 20 Questions with Kris (With a K)

I'm super late to the game but excited to continue the getting to know each other theme so...I’m participating in a Getting-to-Know-You game of 20 Questions with Kris (With a K) from the With a K Writing Academy. I’m excited to get to know my own blog-readers better & to find other bloggers to play with too. You know – friends who just get it. If you want to participate, you can too! Just go to check out Kris’s post about it here, & get started.  

1 – What’s a ridiculous nickname you’ve had?

Not sure that I ever had a ridiculous name but the most common ones are definitely Becky, Bex, Beckers, Becky Boo or just Boo.

 

2 – Why do you write a blog? Have your reasons changed over time?

When I started out blogging it was just one of those things I thought I should do plus I had always loved to read and to write. 

Now I realize that the blog has the power to be so much more. It's an opportunity to connect with people, to help people during one of the most exciting, but sometimes stressful, times as they plan their wedding day, and a place to share so much from images to advice, to share personal stories and client love stories and so much more!

 

3 – Where do you like to be when you are writing?

I honestly write most often from my couch or desk at home but I do my best writing when I can get out - whether for the writing or just before I write - for a change of scenery, a dose of inspiration and a little fresh air to clear the normal to do's out of my brain and be able to really enjoy the writing process.

This is something I'm really looking forward to this year, creating a space to write in that will be filled with creativity and continue to build my skills to really bring together words and imagery to help people get to know the amazing people, clients and colleagues, the way I do. They are amazing people and I want to make sure I do their stories justice.

 

4 – Peanut butter & __________.

CHOCOLATE!!! Was this seriously in question? Hello Chocoholic Queen right here.

 

5. What does your Writing Process look like?

Sometimes it starts with a few notes scribbled down (digitally or physically) or an image that I'm just in love with and inspires me to write the story or a piece of wedding advice that it brings to mind. Other times it comes from questions my clients ask or a quick questionaire they've filled out.

Overall, there isn't much of a process. I sit down and write a first draft trying my hardest not to filter my thoughts and my voice too much (if I overthink too much it all comes out professional and overly formal or robotic, there's not personality left!) The second read through is about polishing it up a little and making sure it all makes sense and captures what I want to say (I'm notoriously bad for getting really excited about something I'm writing and skipping words in the middle of sentences - I'm not the only one right?)

 

6 – What keeps you up at night?

EVERYTHING! My brain seriously doesn't have an off switch and it's a real problem sometimes but, I learned a long time ago to keep a pen and notebook beside the bed to write down ideas or things I need to do so I don't have to worry about forgetting them as well as keeping the phone out of the bedroom because resisting the urge to check it can been so hard!

 

7 – What was your last online purchase? Did you hide it from anyone? (I see you, impulse buyers & shame shoppers)

My last online purchase...was a book! I am a complete book addict and it's probably a good thing my bank account doesn't allow me to buy my whole wishlist. We don't own enough bookshelves for that!

 

8 – What do you honestly think of elastic waistbands?

To most of my more fashionable friends I would say only for workouts but as an entrepreneur - when I'm working from home I am rocking elastic waistbands for sure in the form of yoga pants or pj pants most of the time. I just love to be comfy.

 

9 – What blogs or magazines do you love to read? Why?

I am completely obsessed with Magazines in a few different categories. Here are my current favs by category

Photography - Shutter Magazine

Weddings - Wedluxe, Elegant Weddings, Trendy Bride, Grace Ormond Weddings (I pick up others too but those are my can't miss mags)

Fashion - InStyle

Home Decor - HGTV, Style at Home, Canadian House and Home

Fitness/Health - Oxygen, Shape, Women's Health, Clean Eating

I love them all for inspiration, information I can use, and good writing (I like stories)

 

10 – What is your favourite way to express your creativity?

Photography for sure. 

I have always loved to create but my hands always failed to create what I saw in my minds eye but with my camera in my hand I found the joy of creating again.

I love to dabble with scrapbooking, watercolour painting, and calligraphy too

 

11 – DSLR or iPhone?

I always prefer to work with my DSLR or even one of our film cameras but the best camera is always the one you have with you so I end up using my phone (though not an iphone - I'm not a big apple fan overall but love my ipad)

 

12 – How do you feel about the semicolon? Do you have any feelings about punctuation marks, in general? (it’s ok if you don’t)

I love exclamation marks because I tend to be excited and energetic in most of my writing but I don't really have any feelings about other punctuation marks.

 

13 – What is a skill you really want to learn?

Just one? I love learning new skills.

I am currently working on watercolour painting and calligraphy but also want to learn sketch noting, scuba diving, and drawing.

 

14 – Do you use a planner or journal to keep your life from derailing? What kind?

Not yet but I'm on the search for one that works for me. Always open to suggestions!

 

15 – What does your dream Sunday look like?

A big brunch, time with awesome people or curled up with a blanket and a book in front of a big window.

 

16 – Do you have a full-time business or a side hustle?

It's a full time business on top of a full-time day job. I love working with the kids in my class but I could never give up my photography. It's a passion for sure.

 

17 – Coffee or tea?

Neither - I'm a hot chocolate girl.

 

18 – What is your favourite outfit?

 

19 – What scares you?

Disappointing the people I care about - my family, my clients, my colleagues.

I love to help people and always worry I will disappoint people. 

 

20 – Cats or Dogs?

I love both but right now I'm snuggling with my puppy Kowa (named after one of our cameras) so I'm going to have to go with dogs today.

 

Did you learn anything new? I would love to see you join in and share your answers to these 20 Questions so I can learn more about you!

 

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Time to reflect

*Warning, long winded personal post ahead.*

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This past month or so, the blog has been quiet.

 

It's been a time of reflection. It's been a time of self-care.

 

In 2015 I was blessed with so many wonderful things happening including some of the most inspiring educational experiences, collaborating with amazing people in the wedding industry, changes in my business in the services and the products I offer, the growth of the London Wedding Professionals, changes in my personal life as well as day job (yep, still have one of those for nor working with some absolutely fabulous students and their families) and so much more. I could not be more grateful to the fantastic clients and colleagues (as well as of course an amazingly supportive husband and encouraging daughter) who have been here supporting me, cheering me on, and forgiving me when I occasionally stumble along the way.

 

Sadly, all of these amazing opportunities (and my inability to say no to some of it) put me in a situation where as of the beginning of this year I have needed to take some time off.

 

I want so badly to be the best wife, mother, friend, photographer, mentor, teacher and so much more to everyone in my life and in my efforts to do everything I could to please everyone, I found it difficult to please anyone. At the end of the year, I couldn't help anyone because I had neglected to take care of myself.

 

I recently watched a webinar with Vanessa Joy. She spoke about photography, workflow, and marketing of course but the part that impacted me most was when she spoke about finding balance, about self-care, and about staying focused on your 'why' and your definition of success. She also reminded me that "when you say yes to something, you are saying no to everything else".

 

To some this might not seem like much of a revelation but to me it was. By always saying yes to everything I was asked to do, I ended up saying no to some of the things that mattered most. I often ended up saying no to family time, no to taking care of myself (physically, mentally and spiritually), no to giving my clients the very best I can, and no to the huge growth as a person, an artist, and so much more.

 

This year it's about being deliberate. It about figuring out why my why is, what my vision of success is, and comparing every opportunity I am offered to those two important pieces of information and asking...does this get me closer?

 

Why am I sharing this with you today you? Why would my brides, my fellow photographers or wedding industry colleagues care? It's about taking time to reflect and setting priorities which is something I think we can all relate to but more than anything I am sharing today because I want to be open with you.

 

Yes I there are changes coming and maybe this information will make it easier to understand where I am coming from. I have talked so many times in so many different ways about the kind of relationships I want to build with readers, clients, colleagues and beyond but if I want these to be real friendships I need to be willing to be open with you. To help you understand who I am, what I stand for, and what I believe.

 

Now I ask you, what has the first 6 weeks of 2016 brought to you? What has it meant? Please share with me in the comments below and know I will be here reading your comments and eager to learn a little more about you!

 

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