*Warning, long winded personal post ahead.*
This past month or so, the blog has been quiet.
It's been a time of reflection. It's been a time of self-care.
In 2015 I was blessed with so many wonderful things happening including some of the most inspiring educational experiences, collaborating with amazing people in the wedding industry, changes in my business in the services and the products I offer, the growth of the London Wedding Professionals, changes in my personal life as well as day job (yep, still have one of those for nor working with some absolutely fabulous students and their families) and so much more. I could not be more grateful to the fantastic clients and colleagues (as well as of course an amazingly supportive husband and encouraging daughter) who have been here supporting me, cheering me on, and forgiving me when I occasionally stumble along the way.
Sadly, all of these amazing opportunities (and my inability to say no to some of it) put me in a situation where as of the beginning of this year I have needed to take some time off.
I want so badly to be the best wife, mother, friend, photographer, mentor, teacher and so much more to everyone in my life and in my efforts to do everything I could to please everyone, I found it difficult to please anyone. At the end of the year, I couldn't help anyone because I had neglected to take care of myself.
I recently watched a webinar with Vanessa Joy. She spoke about photography, workflow, and marketing of course but the part that impacted me most was when she spoke about finding balance, about self-care, and about staying focused on your 'why' and your definition of success. She also reminded me that "when you say yes to something, you are saying no to everything else".
To some this might not seem like much of a revelation but to me it was. By always saying yes to everything I was asked to do, I ended up saying no to some of the things that mattered most. I often ended up saying no to family time, no to taking care of myself (physically, mentally and spiritually), no to giving my clients the very best I can, and no to the huge growth as a person, an artist, and so much more.
This year it's about being deliberate. It about figuring out why my why is, what my vision of success is, and comparing every opportunity I am offered to those two important pieces of information and asking...does this get me closer?
Why am I sharing this with you today you? Why would my brides, my fellow photographers or wedding industry colleagues care? It's about taking time to reflect and setting priorities which is something I think we can all relate to but more than anything I am sharing today because I want to be open with you.
Yes I there are changes coming and maybe this information will make it easier to understand where I am coming from. I have talked so many times in so many different ways about the kind of relationships I want to build with readers, clients, colleagues and beyond but if I want these to be real friendships I need to be willing to be open with you. To help you understand who I am, what I stand for, and what I believe.
Now I ask you, what has the first 6 weeks of 2016 brought to you? What has it meant? Please share with me in the comments below and know I will be here reading your comments and eager to learn a little more about you!